Friday, July 07, 2006

parent hood where is the manual

parent hood is possibly one of the thoughest callings in life it is the most painful and the most rewarding and I seem to stumble though realising that I do not have a clue what i am doing and Hoping beyond hope that I can bring my chiildren up with the least amount of damage as possible
but realising that if i could have attainted such a feat that is bring up children un damaged then they would never see their need of God becasue they would be perfect so their fore they would be in glory.
Any way I have 4 children 2 of which have left home very damaged souls and have dcended in to drink and drugs and all that life entails homelessness and jobless lives and collecting other lost souls along the way growing more self centred as each day seems to pass
All i will say is that I have faith to trust and believe that there is a glimer on the hozion i can not and will not ever give up believing that one day they will come in to a fall and free life through Jesus.
But i think my reason for writing this post was My daughter is not happy that i will not allow her to go into the city contre and just hang out and it is not helped my by son saying that I should relax and allow her to have a social life but in my eyes as soon as i relaxed and allow the boys to go and hang out that is wehere the rot set in and their lives decended in to drugs crime and drink
so I guess that in view of what happened with the boys that is why I am so over protective with my daughter
there are many other reasons but i really do not know how to strike a healthy balance
I want my daughter to grow intot eh healthy well balanced woman i know that she is destined to e but i feel totally helpless in how to acheive this
all thoughts would be appreciated
I know that iun my heart of hearts God is going to honour my heart it is just hard and often painful when he works things through with us

3 comments:

HR?I said...

im quite willing to escort her into town, shopping etc. if it would give your mind some rest.
it is very hard to please everyone, whilst trying to give them the best that you can-especially teenagers! all you can do is show them your love, and trust God with the rest. maybe, through your 2 sons going off the rails and getting tag-alongs that are going in the same direction, when your sons find God-as im sure they will when the time is right-they will bring their friends from the depths and will not only save their own lives, but other people's as well. its about patience, love and trust-all very hard i know, but keep persevearing and you will get there.

Just teejay said...

It's very hard isn't it knowing when and how much to let your little ones spread their wings a little.My eldest is 14 and going through the how much freedom to allow thing to.I do however allow her to travel to the nearest city with friends now,not that that happens often as we live quite some way from the city.

; ) The TJ

dee-braveheart said...

thanks for the in put
i know that it is going to be a uncertain path for us both
but in God together we can get there
with the help of a mate or tow or three and a bit of discipleship ahhh disciple ship